What are your priorities and where do you wish to be headed in life, Sag? If you look closely a martyr mindset may feel like your default setting, however, it may have been entirely your choosing. The fire that you are, you do have the skills to choose to be a guiding light that nurtures or a wildfire that destroys. And this is an opportunity you must seize mindfully, knowing fully well that you are in control.
Cosmic tip: Everything is material for your liberation.